What IS 'Happiness' Anyway???

I've been talking to a dear friend about 'Happiness'.

How we all want it. But really. What does it mean?

Perhaps it means something different to all of us.

Perhaps it depends on what you are comparing it to.

I think Happiness has been over rated. At least skewed in the past few decades. I think it has been made into something that is to be achieved, and that once we have it we will live in this happy bubble.

How stupid are we to believe that.

No.

I believe that Happiness does exist yes. However, I believe that there is no 'happiness'. contentment perhaps...not 'happiness'. Happy Moments yes...but everlasting bubbles I don't know.

I think if we are lucky enough to have enough happy moments in a row, then yay for us.

So what is a happy moment? Can I be sad and yet happy??? Yup. I think so. I think I can have really bad days, but I can still be happy/content with my life.

I think happiness occurs when you search for it. When you get up every morning and are determined to see the good in things. When you take a shower and clean yourself up and stop wallowing in self pity or blaming others for your problems. I think happiness comes from taking control of your life and realizing that your attitude is the only thing that you can control.

You can't change people. You can't change the world. But you CAN change the way you choose to look at it. You can pay attention to the advice of those wiser than you. You can choose to love somebody unconditionally. You can choose to stop being selfish and care so much about how someone hurt you. Get over it. Get over yourself and just be content with your health. Be content that you have a roof over your head and people to love you despite all your shortcomings. You can figure out what you want and who you are and you can make small changes to your life everyday that will set you on the path to achieve your goals.

Choose to Live and move on despite a heartless and forever changing world.

Do I think it is easy to be 'happy' when your heart is hurting?? No I don't. In fact some days I have to force myself to get out of bed and get on with life. But I do it. I do it because intellectually I know I need to. Because I am the only one who can do it. I am the only one who can make the choice to get out of bed and choose to create those happy moments....

And maybe... just maybe those moments will come more and more often and when I have a bad day it will seem like a mere second in the life I am living....in the life I have chosen for myself.

But I certainly won't know unless I get out of bed in the morning now will I???