I'm reading two books right now. Two amazing but completely OPPOSITE parenting books.
One is about trusting your kid completely, honoring them, treating them with respect and allowing them to make choices on their own...like cleaning their rooms when then 'want' to.
The other one is stricter. More guiding. More structured.
Both preach being cool calm and collective parents. Firm and in control. Loving.
So how is it that I can be crappy at BOTH styles??
Why can their not be a book explaining the arms flailing, vein popping, exasperated method??
OH....I see.
5 comments:
I hear ya! I really do!! I don't have a "style", that's my problem. This has been a fly-by-night operation since the first kid was born!!
Go with your gut feeling.
It's easy to write a book. It's a crap shoot raising kids.
Just remember, your kids will react and learn from you. Treat them like you would have like to be treated when you where a kid if you can remember.
Children require structure no matter how they protest.
You and your brother made your beds every morning before you left your room. Your didn't even think about it. Too bad your parents forgot what was important.
Dad
I'm writing that book. Just wait. As soon as I'm done hollering at my kids.
Incidentally, what are you reading?
Because of our issues with Seamus-which by the way, we finally have some good answers and some good direction-- I am reading the Explosive Child by Ross Green. I heard him speak one time and he was interesting.. more for older kids-not toddlers- but great with kids who at times can be a little more "intense".. Just a tip for anyone who is really struggling..We have been applying some of the prinicples and it is making a big difference..
As you know, I think parenting does require some sort of guide/philosphy you follow and we have done the whole Waldorf thing and continue to do so.. it is a good mix of the both--yes, structure (which we call rythmn)but really respecting our children, being attuned to who they are and letting them be in their imagination and nature as much as possible..
I concur.. follow your gut on this.. I just know what makes me feel good at the end of the day and for me being strict and inflexible just doesn't feel good..
suzin
I think every child needs their own book. Unfortunately it can only be written by that child, once they learn how to write - then it's too late.
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